Savoir-faire: Week 21

I’ve always said that if only everyone who was single was easy to spot, life would be much so easier for single people! Here are some tips to make it known you are single.

Make sure all your friends and family know that you’re single and actively looking, and ask them to keep their eyes and ears open on your behalf.

The more people you meet, the easier you will find it to control nerves, to assess and understand people, and to recognise a potential partner quickly.

Smile at people, then look again and smile again; let them know you are intrigued by them. Try to be brave and approach strangers; I often give my own business cards to my members and give them permission to approach people they like the look of; then they can pretend they are a dating scout! (A little white lie, sure, but it’s an icebreaker at least.)

Look for any excuse to strike up a conversation: ask for directions, ask for the time (make sure you’re not wearing a watch, though!), or offer a simple compliment (“I love your coat, where did you get it?”)

The onus is so often on men in the dating game, but in my experience it’s more often the women who are more socially confident. Yes, you may be rejected, but just move on. They weren’t right for you; who’s next?