I’m Brigid Hayward, the founder of Catalyst Matchmaking.
When I was single, I started out as a sprightly, enthusiastic social butterfly. But after three years of getting nowhere near a good relationship online, it wore me down. The lack of communication, lack of meeting people in the flesh, and meeting ‘real’ people who had lied and misrepresented themselves really got to me.
I lacked energy and enthusiasm, my work was full on and my confidence really waned. Back then I would have loved some help and support or another opinion. Many single people – and women especially – have come to us very downhearted, despairing of dating online.
We are local covering Norfolk and Suffolk. We work with a very experienced dating guru who can advise you and a professional photographer. We offer coaching and help with your online dating and profiles.
We have clear heads. We’re not biased with other agendas or emotions; you are our agenda! We have your interest at heart and will guide and support you and get to know your values, goals and preferences. We have experience of having done many profiles and can guide your answers, a good profile can make all the difference and can be used online too.
We know many single people who are free, serious about finding a partner and open to meeting someone. As such, our database is growing all the time. We know a lot of single people that have come to us. If a profile has been made we will have checked their ID. We collaborate with other matchmakers and attract single people through our events. We head hunt and actively search for memberships and collect single people on our way!
Every time you meet someone through our service, we will get feedback from both parties. By conveying this feedback in a constructive way, we learn more about every client, and that helps us to provide better matches in future.
This is so important in this age of the internet and googling. We only tell people your first name when doing profiles. We advise you to create an email that does not have your full name in it, nor say which company you work for. Don’t give your private information away, until you really feel happy to do so.
We believe finding a life partner is the most important decision you will ever make; one which affects everything about you, as well as your family and friends. For all of life’s other big decisions, we freely seek advice to help us achieve the desired outcomes: we use an estate agent to help us buy our home; we use a travel agent to help us book our dream holiday; we used careers advisors at school to help us find our ideal job. On the other hand, when it comes to finding love, we are expected to rely upon our intuition, the ambiguous notion of ‘fate’, or the well-intentioned advice of friends and family. So why don’t we enlist professional support to help us find a partner?
Working with a matchmaker or going on a dinner date is a big step. We completely understand you may be nervous about the idea.
You’ll also probably have a lot of questions.
The good news is that everybody else feels the same way too! That’s why we’ve compiled a list of the most common questions we get asked about matchmaking and dinner dating events.
Have a look through our FAQs to see if your question has been answered already.
Absolutely not; you always have a choice as to whether or not you want to proceed with a date. Having said that, we would always encourage you to give a date a go, even if you’re not 100% convinced from the photographs or information that they are a good match. We know for a fact that many successful relationships begin with a little uncertainty on one or both sides.
Absolutely. When you join we will ask for the names (and dates of birth if you know them) of anyone with whom you would not like to be matched. This doesn’t necessarily have to be an ex-partner.
Yes, although we concede you are reading this online! Letting you know about our matchmaking services and events is the full extent to which we interact online. Your dating experience will take place entirely in the ‘real world’, from meeting our matchmaker to making contact with potential dates. Most of our clients have tried and been disappointed by online dating, and we offer a refreshing antidote to everything that can be difficult about using websites and apps.
If you don’t want to meet people we match for you, we will ask you to wait as new members are joining all the time. However, we would always encourage you to go on a date, as it is not usually possible to get a good impression of somebody without meeting them. Once you have joined as a member, you will not be given a refund if you decide not to go on any dates with potential matches we find for you.
Please tell us a bit about yourself, your age, your location, your main career, your interests and what you feel you are looking for. Or check out the free profile registration